Comments on: Mommy Confession Part II

By: Erin

Erin — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 01:22:18 +0000

I can’t imagine how hard that will be but it won’t be forever and he will be with people who you trust and who love him. Even though you won’t be the one spending the most time with him there is still no one like mommy! You better tell Zach to take lots of pictures while you are so busy!

By: court

court — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 21:41:00 +0000

We are right there with you… and it breaks my heart to not get to be the one spending as much time with her but my hubby does do a wonderful job. Still, we’ve started talking about him getting at least a part time job and it is scary thinking of other people watching my kid. I think it will be good for her though because she seems to crave social events so maybe it will be the same for Alex?

By: Steph

Steph — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 04:17:14 +0000

I feel really bad for you moms in the USA. It would BREAK MY HEART TO PIECES to leave an 8-12 week old baby in the care of someone else.

Very lucky in Canada, I guess – with a 1 year mat leave. Though, this is only a recent thing for us – my mom’s generation only got 4 months mat leave.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 22:13:50 +0000

We were lucky to both be working from home when Juliana was born so we juggled her time and kept her at home until she was 7 months old, and I knew it was time – too much effort to keep her home, she needed more attentoin, and she needed to be spending time with other kids. But I still cried all day and was sick her first day…and struggled to make it to 5:00.

Now there are Saturdays, when at noon I am wishing it were a “school day” because she is driving me crazy.

Like others have said, you will always be #1 no matter who she is spending time with during the day. When I am in the office, I leave before she wakes up and sometimes don’t get home until after bed that night. But I am always the person that Juliana wants when I am here.

Make the most of the time that you do have and focus on why you are doing this.

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 19:41:14 +0000

Alison, I’m with everyone else here, especially Colleen, because my kids have been in daycare full time since they were 10 weeks old. They’ve always known I’m their mom. And they still like me after being with all those other great people all day long!

It’s okay to feel nervous about it. It will be okay. You are setting a great example for him, too, btw.

By: albamaria30

albamaria30 — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 17:30:03 +0000

Oh, yes, I hear you on the “worst behavior for mommy”. Like ClumberKim said, they act that way because they know you will still love them. Other people they are unsure of, but YOU — the mom — no matter how hard they push, you will love them. This is why time outs were invented. For you and them.

And I’m kind of reassured that I am not the only one who has children who DO NOT LISTEN. I’ve had their hearing tested; I know it’s fine. but they do not hear the mommy voice. makes me insane.

ciao!
rpm

By: Colleen

Colleen — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 15:57:42 +0000

There are days I hate being a full-time working mom, but then there are days (like those tantrum days) that I’m glad I can leave them in the care of capable people and go earn a living so that they can eventually go to college or more easily afford food and clothing. And although Justin is still #1 for Gavin (he’s ALWAYS been a daddy’s boy), he still asks if I can stay home and he’d rather be with me than at daycare (I’m still Cooper’s #1)
Both of my boys have been in daycare since they were 7 and 8 weeks old, respectively, and are still thrilled to see me, whether it’s when I pick them up, or when I come home to them. You will always be his mommy and until he’s a teen, you will always be his #1.

By: ClumberKim

ClumberKim — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 15:57:09 +0000

Newluv: I don’t think your daughter behaves that way because she thinks she gets away with more. My son used to become a holy terror the minute I arrived to pick him up at day care, after being an angel all day. I think it is a matter of kids working so hard to hold it all together in day care that when they are with the person who loves them most, they let out everything they have been holding back, knowing you will still love them regardless of they act. It means the message that you love her unconditionally has gotten through. It’s hard, but there is a silver lining.

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 15:49:08 +0000

aw it’s totally okay to be scared, but you’ll adjust, and so will he. And just know that no matter what, you WILL still be his number one It’s only temporary, and he’s already had all of this wonderful time with you, I’m sure he won’t forget you

By: newluv

newluv — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 15:45:40 +0000

I was home with Heidi for her first 18 months. I worked PT a few hours per week during that time, but for the most part I was home with her. When I got my full time job (CAREER IN MY FIELD!!!) although I was extremely excited, I cried in the bathtub for two weeks straight thinking of leaving Heidi in the care of someone else.

I know how you feel.

Fortunately, I found someone who’s like a second mom to her – and treats her VERY WELL. She’s a SAHM with her own 2 kids so Heidi gets one-on-one attention when her kids are in school. Worked out great.

Unfortunately, although I know Heidi still adores me, I’ve discovered that I am the one person she treats the WORST at times. She just doesn’t LISTEN to me. But I don’t think that has much to do with the daycare situation. More than likely it’s just that I’m the one person who she knows loves her the most, and therefore thinks she can get away with more.