I was 25 when I had Wuzzle, and I’m still (by a long shot) the only of my friends with a child. Heck, I was married for 4 years before any of my friends got married even!! (I do have one friend who has children, and he is 5 years older than me… so he was 28 when they had their first!) Heck, I remember trying to tell my parents we were pregnant… I was scared that even they would judge me!

I absolutely adore your quote about the grass. It is wonderful, isn’t it?

For what it’s worth, I am the oldest mom in Em’s class, and sometimes I feel weird about it.

I was 29 when I had Jonathan but on a mental level I felt 21.

“Who lets an airhead like me procreate?!” I thought to myself when I got pregnant. That and “What was I thinking? Did I really want to be pregnant?!”

But at any age, it is wonderful and at any age there are different challenges. I don’t know you personally, but from what I read on this blog, I think you’re doing just fine. Ignore what anyone implies with their looks or their comments. You don’t owe crap to any of them. All that matters is your son. Period.

Hang in there. Most of the moms of my kids’ friends are much older than I am and it is kind of weird. When I had my kids, I was the only one living on my own and married with kids. I know exactly how you are feeling.

Parenthood never was and never will be easy. It’s just a shame that everyone couldn’t just quit with the looks and say, “hey, you are doing a good job there Mama!”

I’m a little younger than Donald, but either I look MUCH younger than we realize OR people really put undue pressure on women to wait until they have dentures before they reproduce, because people see me with Charlotte and cannot help themselves. I get those same looks and one woman at Target the other day even asked if I was going back to finish my high school diploma or if I was dropping out to support my child, she didn’t mind either one, she just thought it was great that I kept a baby as an unwed mother. HIGH SCHOOL?! REALLY?! I LOOK LIKE A HIGH SCHOOL DROPOUT UNWED MOTHER?!

Unreal. Also, one time a few years ago, I was babysitting my friend’s kids and we decided to take a picnic to the park. En route, we passed a retirement home. This old woman saw me with the kids and shouted at me that I was a harlot and a whore for having multiple teenage pregnancies. So maybe I do look like the high school dropout unwed mother.

Anyway, back to my point, I don’t think that motherhood is about age, I think it’s about love and care and all of those sorts of things. If everybody were responsible enough to raise a child beginning at 21, as you were, then by all means, they should go for it. And nobody should judge that, NOBODY.