He Says I Don’t Write About Him Enough

I don’t write much about Zach. Recently he asked me why I never write about him, and without an answer I decided I would change that.

“The Couples Meme” has been going around the interwebs for a while now. I first saw it at Dooce, then at Chicky Chicky Baby and ClumberKim. And probably about a dozen other blogs in between those times.

So, without further ado I present to you a boring ol’ meme in order to jump start my writing about Zach in addition to my constant talk about Alex.

What are your middle names?

I’m a very, very, open person. Even online, where most people tend to hide things about themselves. But, my middle name? Not happening.

Zach’s is Nelson. It is his mother’s maiden name.

How long have you been together?

We “got together” during my junior, his senior, year of high school. And we’ve basically been together ever since, even through the vast majority of our time in college. I think our anniversary is October 28 (Zach? Help?!), which means that we will hit 7 years in October.

How long did you know each other before you started dating?

I suppose we in some sense knew each other starting in 1999, when I entered eighth grade and he was a big ninth grader. But I don’t think we talked to each other until he became friends with one of my good friends during my sophomore year. And, yeah, I totally had a crush on him from day one.

Who asked whom out?


How old are each of you?

We are both 23. He will be 24 in July. I’m looking forward to the day when I can make fun of him for being five months older than me instead of him making fun of me for being five months younger.

Whose siblings do you see the most?

We are only children. So, there’s that.

Which situation is hardest on you as a couple?

Dividing up duties. Mostly dividing up the duties of the house. In particular? We argue about the cleanliness of the house. It’s, really, the only thing we fight about. Except the occasional bickering about who is going to put Alex to sleep.

Did you go to the same school?

We went to the same high school, but different colleges.

Are you from the same home towns?

Yes and No. I was born and raised here in Pittsburgh. Zach was born in West Virginia, grew up mostly in New Hampshire, and moved to Pittsburgh when he was in eighth grade.

Who is smarter?

He is. Yup.

Who is the most sensitive?

I think he is. He probably thinks I am. I guess it depends on the day, and the topic.

Where do you eat out most as a couple?

Bar Louie. Is that sad?

Where is the furthest the two of you have traveled as a couple?


Who has the craziest exes?

He does. Absolutely, positively, definitely, undeniably. He does.

Who has the worst temper?

He does. I don’t have much of a temper, I just get moody.

Who does the cooking?

I do. It’s something I greatly enjoy. Every once in a while he will, and he always does a very good job!

Who is the neat freak?

Easy-peasy: Zach. He is without a doubt a neat freak. Me? Well…not so much.

Who is more stubborn?

We are both immensely stubborn. Immensely. It’s amazing we don’t get into all-out brawls when you think about it.

Who hogs the bed?

I hog the covers. Poor Zach wakes up freezing most nights during winter because the blankets are all on me and off to my side of the bed. But he takes up more room in bed. Not only because he’s bigger, but also because he insists on having a pillow next to him. So, bigger person + pillow = bed hog.

Who wakes up earlier?

Whoever wakes up with Alex gets up earlier.

Where was your first date?

Um. I don’t really remember doing the whole “date” thing. I’m sure we did, but we didn’t just go on a date and then start “dating.” I remember the first time I went to his house after we had been seeing each other for a few weeks. We ordered pizza and watched some terrible movie.

Who is more jealous?

I am. At least, I’m more open about it. It’s not much of an issue anymore, though. There comes a time when you realize jealousy is pretty futile.

How long did it take to get serious?

That’s a tough question. I mean, we were in high school. Everything is so serious in high school and yet so very not. I guess it only took a few weeks.

Unless we are talking about getting serious. And that’s a topic I’m not about to discuss here.

Who eats more?

He does. But I can put down a fair share of food, especially if it is buffalo chicken or ice cream.

Who does the laundry?

We both do. I do mine, he does his. We take turns doing Alex’s, the sheets, dish towels, etc.

Who’s better with the computer?

Ha! I couldn’t even begin to understand a fraction of what he knows about computers. He has a degree in Computer Science, he works in the industry and he has been in love with computers since he was a young child. He, obviously, is better with computers.

Who drives when you are together?

I drive him to work most days, but on the weekends he will typically be the one in the driver’s seat. He’s a good driver, so I don’t mind.

Basically? Zach is pretty awesome. He’s a great dad. He’s caring, he’s funny, he’s handsome, he’s smart, and he makes me extremely happy.

And he gave me Alex.

My Boys

And seriously? How could those two not make me happy? They are freakin’ adorable.

7 thoughts on “He Says I Don’t Write About Him Enough

  1. Aw! That is the cutest couples meme I’ve seen yet. (I did one, too.)

    I especially liked your answer to the serious question. Yes, everything is serious in high school. And yes, no need to be talking about *serious* on a mommy blog! 🙂 I avoided that, too.

    You’re so lucky he does laundry. I wish I had set up that system in my household sooner! I get buried in it weekly.

    Cute pictures.

    Do you think Zach will regret asking you to write about him?


  2. now that you’ve written true things about Zach, time to start making up weird stuff. For comedic value Really.

    “yeah, and every time we go to zoos, he wants to visit the llamas. I never can figure out why.”

  3. Great pics! They are both adorable 🙂

    I thought it was interesting that you’re both only children. Do you think you’ll have another kid down the road? One of my best-friends growing up was an only child and she wanted to make sure she had more than one child. She has 2 right now… 🙂

  4. How cute! I can’t believe you’ve known each other since high school. If Donald had known me in high school, well, um, you know, let’s just say it’s good that he didn’t! EEP!

    Also, those last four photos are sooooo cute!!!!! There’s something just so breathtaking about photographs of a father and his child.

  5. I knew my husband from high school too. We started dating before my senior year and he was two years older. But I liked him in high school, he just didn’t know it until I was a sophomore. That would take a blog post to describe. Oh, and we’ve been married 34 years this year. We got married the summer of my graduation before I went to college. Sadly, I didn’t finish college. Things didn’t work out. Quite another blog post. And I probably won’t ever share either of those topics. 😀

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